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Let's be blunt: we all are great at putting difficult things off.

Healing from trauma and grief.

Losing weight.

Starting a new habit.

Today's post is simple - you are going to journal through these questions (all excerpts from my coaching program) and decide WHAT to start with. We are going to change your mindset.

Write, type, or process through these questions with a friend. At the end, comment your thing you are going to make an action plan to do.

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Q1: What is one habit or belief that no longer serves me?

For me, recently, this was drinking alcohol and spending hours a week at a bar.

It was not productive for where I was trying to go in life. It did not align with feeling good and living a clean life.

Take some time and think this prompt through. If it helps, make a list of multiple habits/beliefs.

Some examples of habits: biting nails, scrolling on your phone before bed, not managing your money, ignoring hobbies.

Some examples of beliefs: I am not worthy of consistent love; I have to weigh xxxxlbs in order to be pretty; I should have worked harder when I was younger because now it is too late.

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Q2: What are any roadblocks I think are stopping me from tackling this habit or belief?

For a long time, my sobriety was hindered by my friends, my social pattern, my partner, and my trauma.

I used alcohol to avoid dealing with any of that. It was an escape mechanism.

When you envision your roadblocks, be specific. If you write down a name, also write down what they do. If you write down time/schedule, write down everything you have on your plate.

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Q3: Write down your perfect day - roadblocks gone, this new habit/belief centering your decisions and actions.

I wake up feeling great, go for a long walk, workout, get to work, come home and work on my businesses, spend time having quality conversations with my son, my partner, my friends, and working on developing relationships in my business.

Notice how this is written as if it is reality. Stop saying "I will" or "If I do this." Start framing in your mind that you WILL do it.

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Next Step: Create a Plan

No good change happens without a plan. To help with my sobriety, I pulled back from all things happening in bars, or events that focused on alcohol. This wasn't permanent, but it is what I needed in the beginning to stay focused. I started working out and working on my businesses. My friends knew to offer me water or soda.

What is your plan? How will you hold yourself accountable? Who will help you stay on track?

Here is the kicker: you need to have a plan for when you fall off-track. You most likely will. What will you do to get back in line and keep moving forward.

A small detour from your better habit or belief will not be a failure. It will be an opportunity to come back and re-assess where you are at and what you need to do to be successful.

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